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Female Masturbation: Beginner’s Guide

In today’s episode, we are diving into a topic that is often shrouded in taboo: female masturbation. While it might raise eyebrows, the truth is many females indulge in it. In fact, I consistently get the same questions from numerous females, whether from our Instagram or from my TikTok videos. They’re always curious about how safe it is and what are the best ways to touch themselves. Don’t worry because I’ll be sharing everything that you need to know!

What is Masturbation?

Masturbation, in its simplest definition, is the practice of touching oneself for sexual pleasure. It’s a natural aspect of human sexuality, allowing individuals to explore their bodies and discover what feels good.

While many people typically use their hands to stimulate their erogenous zones, others might choose to use sex toys. These devices are specifically designed to stimulate certain body parts, making it easier for the user to achieve orgasms.

Is Masturbation Safe and Healthy?

One of the more common questions I come across when discussing female masturbation is whether it’s safe and healthy. Well, let me assure you that the answer is a resounding yes! In fact, masturbation comes with a range of physical and emotional benefits, which I’ll discuss later. But for now, let’s talk about the beginner’s guide to touching yourself.

Beginner’s Guide to Touching Yourself

Step 1: Learn About Your Pleasure Zones

Researching the female anatomy isn’t technically a requirement to start masturbating, but it can certainly help during your solo play. There’s a common misconception that the primary pleasure center of the female body is the G-spot, which is inside the vagina. While stimulating the G-spot can feel good, the actual pleasure center of the female body is the clitoris, located in the vulva.

Here’s a visual representation of the vulva. You can see the labia majora and the labia minora, which are the protective folds of skin surrounding the vulva. Once you gently part them, you can see the clitoris at the top, covered by the clitoral hood.

The clitoris is the pleasure center of the female body. It’s a small knob protected by a thin layer of skin. To feel it, start doing light taps on the part of your vulva. The clitoris is super sensitive, so once you’ve tapped the right spot, you’ll instantly feel a tingling sensation.

Step 2: Prepare for Masturbation

First, find a private space where you can fully embrace the experience without any interruptions. If you’re sharing a living space with other people, try masturbating when they’re out of the house or perhaps during nighttime or early morning when they are fast asleep.

Once you’ve secured your private space and set aside some uninterrupted time, it’s now time to prep your sex toys and lubricant. For those who just heard about lubricants, it’s a gel or cream formulated to mimic natural lubrication. If you’re using a dildo or planning to stimulate your G-spot using your fingers, then I highly recommend getting one.

Aside from toys and lube, you’ll also need to prepare towels, tissues, hand sanitizer, and other related items. Keep them within easy reach so that you won’t have to interrupt the moment by getting up to grab them. Remember also to clean your hands to prevent any bacterial infections in your genitals.

Step 3: Touch Yourself

There are different ways to masturbate, and I highly recommend trying out all of the techniques that I’ll share in this guide. That way, you’ll be able to figure out the best and the comfiest way to please yourself. You can also use all of them if you like.


This method involves stimulating your genitals with your fingers. You can move your fingers up and down, side to side, or in circular motions. Experiment with different directions and pressures until you find what’s best for your body.

You can also involve the other parts of the vulva like the labia majora, the labia minora, or even the vaginal opening. Just make sure that you’re gentle because these areas can be very sensitive.

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To try this technique, sit on top of a pillow or grinding sex toy and gently grind your body, allowing the friction to stimulate your clitoris. It’s a simple yet effective way to achieve pleasure.

Water Masturbation

This method is perfect for individuals who have a detachable shower head or access to a bathtub. Sit or lie down in your shower or bathtub and allow the water current to stimulate your clitoris.

Thigh Squeezing

To try this technique, either sit down with your legs crossed or lie down on your side. Next, squeeze your legs together until you feel pressure on your clitoris. For added sensation, you can put your hand on the crotch area, essentially sandwiching it to increase pressure and stimulation.

Sex Toy Play

This method is pretty straightforward. You’ll masturbate using sex toys that are specifically designed for the female body. These devices are crafted to provide targeted stimulation, making it easier for you to achieve orgasm. Some examples include:

  • Mini Vibrators: These are cylindrical-shaped vibrators that are conveniently sized to fit in your pocket for discreet pleasure on the go.
  • Clit Suckers: These toys indirectly stimulate your clitoris through suction-like sensations, providing a unique and intense form of pleasure.
  • Love Eggs: These small, teardrop-shaped devices are inserted into the vagina. They are designed to stimulate the G-spot, offering internal pleasure.
  • Wand Vibrators: These versatile devices serve dual purposes, functioning as both body massagers and clitoral stimulators.
  • Finger Vibrators: These are often worn like a ring or thimble, allowing for precise and targeted stimulation of the clitoris and other erogenous zones.

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Step 4: Take It Slow

When touching yourself, avoid putting too much pressure on yourself to achieve orgasm. Instead, embrace the sensations, let go of expectations, and allow your body to guide you.

Step 5: Make Time for Aftercare

Aftercare involves activities that you do after an intimate activity. This includes cleaning up your space, washing your sex toys, taking a quick shower, or even grabbing a nap if you feel sleepy after masturbating. You can also relax in your room, check up on your favorite content creators, or do anything else you enjoy. It’s all up to your preferences.

Benefits of Masturbation

Let’s address another common question about female masturbation: what are the benefits of this activity?

First off, orgasms! When you reach that peak, your brain releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins, which help reduce stress and boost your mood. Plus, masturbating is a safer option than jumping into casual encounters with other people. It lets you get off without the risk of acquiring sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unplanned pregnancies.

While science may not have all the answers yet, it’s also worth mentioning that orgasms can work wonders in relieving pain and improving sleep quality. That’s why it’s totally okay to masturbate even when you’re on your period because it can help soothe menstrual cramps.

Exploring yourself through masturbation can also help spice things up in the bedroom with your partner. By getting to know what you like and what you don’t like, you’ll be better equipped to communicate your desires, making for some seriously satisfying experiences together.


I’m thrilled that we’ve covered this topic, especially since a lot of you requested this. I hope you found this guide informative and that it inspires you to continue learning more about your body. Always remember that self-pleasure is a completely natural and healthy aspect of sexuality, and there is no wrong or right way to do it. Whether you’re just starting out or a seasoned pro, take the time to listen to your body, experiment with different techniques, and most importantly, enjoy the journey.

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