Frequently Asked Questions
Dildos can be used to affirm gender identity or sexuality, experience gender euphoria, make penetration possible, explore double penetration, or extend the size of an existing phallus.
Dildos come in many different shapes, sizes, and materials. When choosing one, you should consider whether you want a realistic or non-realistic design, whether you want vibration, and whether you want to use it anally (in which case it needs a base wider than its thickest part).
The best dildo for you will depend on your specific needs and preferences. For prostate stimulation, Lisa Finn recommends a dildo with a big curve or angle, such as the Njoy Pure Wand. For beginners, Sarah Sloane recommends starting with something small, like the Tantus Silk Small Dildo.
Dildos can be made from a variety of materials, including silicone, glass, metal, and wood. It’s important to choose a non-porous material that is easy to clean and disinfect. Avoid materials like jelly, PVC, or rubber, which can be porous and harbor bacteria.
When using a dildo, make sure to use plenty of water-based lube, start small, and listen to your body. If you’re sharing your dildo with a partner, use a condom to prevent the spread of STIs. Always clean your dildo before and after use, and store it in a cool, dry place.
If you’re using a dildo anally, make sure to have a base wider than the thickest part of the toy to prevent it from getting stuck inside your body. If you’re using a vibrating dildo, consider whether you want one with a built-in motor or one that can fit a bullet vibrator. And remember, using a certain sex toy or enjoying certain sex acts doesn’t change your sexual orientation or gender identity.
Dildos can be a fun and pleasurable way to explore your body and sexuality, but it’s important to choose a high-quality, non-porous toy and use it safely. Experiment with different sizes, shapes, and materials to find what works best for you, and always prioritize your comfort and pleasure.